Virginia Greaves

Thanks for the Coffee and Chocolate!

If you remember in a previous post, I made coffee cuffs for teacher gifts. I put them on tall cups and, for presentation, filled them with chocolate and gourmet coffee. I let the children deliver them except for one I gave myself.

Well I was shocked when I received thank you notes from the teachers — very politely thanking me for the coffee and chocolate — !! I couldn’t believe that they had totally missed what I had given them. I shiver to think that they may have just thrown them away.

The one gift that I personally delivered was to the school art teacher. She knew immediately what it was and was very excited. She had never seen a custom one and asked if it was my idea. Sadly no — and you’ll be happy to know I didn’t take credit for the original idea. But I was happy that she knew what the gift was. I told her about the reaction from some of the other teachers — and she told me that, as a knitter, you should never give a piece of your work to a non-knitter — there is no way that a non-knitter can appreciate the time that has gone into the work. I am inclined to agree with her on this point (from a quilting perspective of course).

I have spent at least a month trying very hard not to work on a face quilt that is sitting on my design wall. It is yellow. Next week, when the children return to school, I’m either going to fix it or move on. It is easy to get distracted in December. There a million things for a mother to do — and on top of all of that, one of my daughters has her birthday in December.

And did I mention that my grand-father died? He was a great man. He passed away in his sleep on Christmas Eve. My husband put it best. If you had to pick a day to die, wouldn’t you want to go on Christmas Eve? You would be in heaven just in time for Jesus’s birthday. I remember several years ago when I brought my daughter home from the hospital, and I sat in an armchair, holding my newborn, and slept while he hand washed dishes in the kitchen. He always sent me a birthday card, up until the time when his Alzheimer’s robbed him of his ability to remember things. When I was a child, he brought me chocolate Easter bunnies and let me drive his car while I sat on his lap.

I have a bunch of ties from his house, but they were covered with mold when I got them, and rather than using dry cleaning bags in the dryer (which I realize now would have been the best way to clean them), I ran them through a gentle cycle in the washer. Several came apart which isn’t really a problem since I would take them apart anyway, but many of them lost their sheen.

My collection of ties is probably getting out of control, but they are so beautiful. I gave my mother-in-law the pillow I made from her deceased husband’s ties, and she cried. It fascinates me how the essence of people is carried in the fabrics that they wear, and how personal the pieces are that I make with them.

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One response to “Thanks for the Coffee and Chocolate!”

  1. Joyce Teal Avatar
    Joyce Teal

    Virginia,

    I read this post with interest. As a teacher for nearly 20 years, I have received lots of gifts and some I had no idea what they were! I’ve received perfume in bottles that had water added to make it look “filled” read – used perfume, bracelets and had the child tell me it was given to their mom by an ex boyfriend and she didn’t want it any more, I could on. Understand that teachers get many gifts, not all of which we understand. Teachers do live for their chocolate and coffee or tea and these gifts are greatly appreciated. The adage of “never give your work to someone who can’t appreciate it” is very true. It is possible that some of them did understand what the coffee cuffs were and did keep them. If they didn’t know what they were called (most people don’t) they probably just left it off the thank you rather than making the mistake of calling it the wrong thing.

    Did the teachers know that you are a quilter? That could make a difference. I have received items that defy description but knowing – or even asking other teachers who had this child – if they knew anything about it. Usually someone will know what the piece is or background from the family. I have received gifts of books written by a parent of one of my students. The book was of no interest to me but I was touched that they wanted to share a piece of themselves with me.

    Whenever I give a piece of art to someone, I always put in the note explaining what it is. For example, a fabric postcard. I would include a note stating that it could be mailed with a regular stamp, and was made from cotton fabrics and mettallic threads. It may seem obvious to us but to the “non-crafter” it is a mystery.

    This would be my suggestion to “educate the educator.” Next time your school has an auction or fundraiser, donate several coffee cuffs – complete with an explanation of what they are. Trust me, they will sell,,,,and parents will buy them for their child’s teacher and become very popular among everyone!!!

    Keep educating people about what you do, it will come back many times over.

    Have a beautiful day! Joyce

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